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Couples Therapy

Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Has the business of life taken over and you no longer know how to relate to one another? Does it seem like no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to communicate effectively? Are you fighting more than usual? Or maybe there's been a rupture in the relationship that neither of you knows how to repair. If so, therapy can help. 

How I work

All relationship experience cycles of harmony, disharmony and repair. Problems typically arise if either partner is not aware of how to properly repair the damage associated with disharmony. For many of us, these relational skills were not modeled in our families of origin, so we have very little training on how to be a good partner. I work collaboratively with couples to identify the trauma underlying dysfunctional relational patterns, and develop new skills to choose a different way of relating. Using research-based, practical tools from both Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the Gottman Method, I'll help you transform your relationship stance from defensiveness and criticism to one of appreciation, empathy and connection. 

Benefits of Relational Life Therapy (RLT)

RLT is a collaborative form of therapy in which the therapist takes an active role in identifying patterns and dynamics that may be causing problems, but the client is also encouraged to take responsibility for their behavior and work together with the therapist to improve their relationships. The therapist provides guidance and support, but the client is ultimately responsible for making changes in their life. Traditional therapists may present themselves as experts in their field, while RLT therapists speak as imperfect people who are themselves in recovery.

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Improved Communication

Helps clients develop healthy communication skills to effectively express their emotions and needs

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Increased Empathy and Connection

Encourages clients to develop greater empathy and understanding for their partners, leading to deeper connections and more fulfilling relationships. Clients learn to recognize their partner's perspective and respond in a way that is respectful and compassionate.

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Greater Emotional Intelligence

By learning to recognize, understand, and name emotions, clients develop healthier ways of expressing and managing them.

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Practical Skills Building

RLT includes practical exercises and homework assignments that help clients develop new habits and skills.  Clients learn to practice healthy communication, set boundaries, and build emotional resilience.

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Heal From Past Traumas

RLT helps clients work through past traumas or wounds that may be affecting current relationships.

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Improved Overall Wellbeing

RLT helps clients improve their overall wellbeing by reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. By developing healthier relationships, clients can experience greater happiness, fulfillment, and life satisfaction.

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